It’s about a one-night stand with a girl you met at a party, sneaking
out of her room before she wakes, checking your things if something was
missing, looking for her phone and purposely deleting your number from
her phonebook.

It’s about meeting a girl at a bar and offering her a ride home. It’s
about asking her if she wanted to go someplace private so you can
talk–when both of you are aware that you have a different “talk” in
mind.

It’s about meeting your ex again after quite some time and noting how
much better she looks now than she did before. It’s about pushing the
right buttons for her to give in. And finding yourself in bed with her
without strings attached, all the while being grateful to your friend
who told you it’s good not to burn your bridges with your exes.

It’s about seeing a girl and finding ways for you to meet her. With
pickup lines being overused, you have a better chance of getting her
number by having a friend go over and ask her politely if he can have
his friend over there introduced to her. It’s about texting with her
the whole day, getting to know her, showing that you have a genuine
interest in her, sharing sweet nothings on the phone and forwarding her
cheesy quotes that work almost all the time.

It’s about having your friend, your partner-in-crime, the Robin to your
Batman–or whatever you want to call him–validate to her all your
pledges of devotion and loyalty.

It’s about perfecting the art of lying. Telling your girlfriend it was
just you and the boys last night–go ask Robin. And not bothering to
tell Robin what to say because he already knows the routine.

It’s about keeping your girlfriend happy. Giving her gifts and
surprises so she won’t suspect your wayward ways.

It’s about not caring if your girlfriend broke up with you because she
caught you cheating. There are other fish in the sea, you say. You’re
better off a free man, free to do anything you pleased without worrying
about getting caught.

It’s about asking the girl you just met out for a date. Convincing her
that you’re for real. Making her forget about the warnings her friends
gave about you.

It’s about doing anything so you can bring her home tonight. And if
everything else fails, it’s always a good idea to have a plan B.

It’s about saying the L word without breaking eye contact. Making her
believe that you really mean it and that you’re starting to fall for
her. That’s plan B.

It’s about thinking of ways to break up with her if she starts to get
clingy. Thinking of the standard breakup lines and wondering if she’ll
buy it.

It’s about rushing to your friend’s girlfriend with a shoulder to cry
on. Telling her that everything’s gonna work out fine. Comforting her
one minute, making out the next.

It’s about going out with your friends and partying all night. Drinking
till dawn and playing around with girls.

It’s about waking up in the morning with a bad case of hangover and a
very familiar feeling that you went overboard again last night.

Deja vu.

Ugly cycle

It really is an ugly cycle. After years of a life like this, you begin
to ask yourself if there is more to life than drinking all night and
finding someone to hook up with. And in the morning when you wake up,
no matter how much you soap yourself, you still have this uneasy
feeling that you’re still dirty.

Your friend has found a girl that he’s serious about. When you go out
with your friends, you find him taking a raincheck because he has to
spend time with his girl. You and your friends wonder what has gotten
into him. You even wonder if he’s lost his mind. How can he even think
about trading this kind of life? There’s nothing better than a
bachelor’s life.

It’s all fun and games the first few years. But after a while, you look
at yourself in the mirror and find the traces of abuse you did to
yourself. And if you don’t change your ways, you fear that maybe
someday you’ll find yourself alone and lonely.

And after all the years of booze and girls, you can finally sum up your
life in one word–empty.

Maybe it’s not good to spend your life that way. Maybe your friend
hasn’t lost his mind, after all.

What you need is to find someone who can make you look forward to
another day. Someone who, when you think about her, never fails to put
a smile on your face.

Someone who makes you want to be a better man–to steal a line from
pareng Jack Nicholson.

Someone who fills that emptiness in you, making you complete.

Before, when you used to wake up in the morning and find somebody in
your arms, your first thought was how you could get rid of her without
hurting her feelings. But now, what you need is a girl who makes you
want to think of reasons and ways to let her stay in your arms.

Because when she’s right there beside you, it is as if everything’s
okay. That nothing else matters but you and her.

You need somebody who makes you miss her so much that you buy a bottle
of her perfume and spray it on your pillows so, when you go to bed at
night, you can hug the pillow with her scent on it and wish that it was
really her you were hugging.

You need somebody who makes your heart skip a beat when she smiles at
you. Who makes you feel so comfortable and safe that you pour out your
heart to her, unburdening secrets that you’ve kept for a long time. And
having her tell you that it’s okay, you have a new slate now, that you
can leave everything where it belongs, in the past, and concentrate on
what lies ahead of you.

You need someone who makes you listen more to love songs on the radio.
Someone whom you pray for at night before you sleep. Someone you wish
you’d dream about, for even while you sleep, you still want to be with
her.

Someone whom you can finally look in the eye, without all the guilt and
deceit, and tell her you love her. And you get this mushy feeling
inside that tells you it’s true. You want to shout over the rooftops,
you love her, and she loves you! There’s no better feeling in the
world.

I have found my someone. I have found my all. I’ve been wanting to ask
this for a long time now. And I think there’s no better timing than
now.